Thank you so much for joining us in this interview series. Before we start, our readers would love to “get to know you” a bit better. Can you tell us a bit about your background and your childhood backstory?
I was born in Ukraine.
As a child, I moved with my family to the United States. Not knowing the language and being very shy, I spent a lot of time on my own and felt like an outcast. I was anxious around interacting with other people and didn’t feel like I belonged.
Even though I felt “different” and struggled to make deeper connections, I made it to middle school.
But then 9/11 happened and I lost my mom in the attacks.
Around the same time, I was battling with things like obsessive-compulsive tendencies, anxiety, and being a middle schooler. My family and I went through a very challenging time.
Around the time of finishing high school/starting college, my obsessive-compulsive tendencies, anxiety, depression, etc. had become worse. I reluctantly started working with a therapist. He shared that he too had struggled with some of the same things. Before that, I remember feeling something like, “I have no idea what is going on with me and I’m probably the only one who has these kinds of problems”.
Through my work with the therapist, I learned more about what was going on with me and I felt more understood and validated.
When I started college, I began to feel a bit lost and put less effort into my studies. I started asking myself things like “What is the point of doing all this?”. Around the same time, I started to develop an interest in marijuana, psychedelics, and altered states of consciousness. At a certain point, I remember big questions coming up for me like, “What is life all about?”, “Why am I here?”, “Is there more to life?”.
Eventually, after reading a book that was very influential for me, I gradually moved away from the idea of using substances to experience higher states of consciousness, and into what I would describe as Eastern spirituality.
Spirituality has given me a very important sense of meaning and purpose in life.
After college, I went on to do a Master’s degree program in International Management in England and I eventually did a series of corporate-type jobs back in the United States.
However, I felt that the whole environment and type of work that I was doing, were not a good fit for me. Overall, I found the work to be monotonous, not very rewarding, and I remember feeling that I was not very good at most of it.
It was time to make a change.
I did some reflection, research, and evaluated my perceived strengths, and decided to go back to school for a Master’s degree in clinical mental health counseling.
I currently work as an integrative counselor/therapist, utilizing approaches such as Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) (Including Exposure and Response Prevention), Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR), talk therapy, concepts from health coaching, mindfulness/awareness, and non-religious spirituality/transpersonal. I am also allied with alternative communities.
I now feel that I live a much more aligned and fulfilled life.
There are many possibilities and it is my belief that in many cases, clients can also work through and overcome all kinds of challenges, and come out living a happier, healthier, more fulfilled, and more aligned life.
Of course, there were more details to this story, but for the sake of length and privacy, I have omitted some things. However, I would be happy to share more with people, one on one, if we both feel it would be helpful.
Can you please give us your favorite “Life Lesson Quote”? Can you share how that was relevant to you in your life?
I could probably list a few quotes here but one would be:
“The universe is not outside of you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you already are.”
― Rumi
I really love this quote by Rumi because I feel like so often, people try to find some kind of ultimate happiness by trying to make more money, getting a more prestigious job, trying to find a perfect partner, buying a new car etc. and it never seems to bring that promised “ultimate happiness” that the mind believes it will. For example, after a while, that shiny new car that you bought, that you thought would finally make you happy, is just another car. I have certainly had experiences similar to this in my life. What I take from this quote, is that true happiness in inside of yourself and not in something external, and that you are enough, just by your mere existence. In addition, I take it to be a good reminder regarding the importance of being happy NOW, and not tying it to some theoretical future event where you may achieve or possess something etc. that you think will “finally make you happy”. However, this does not mean that a person can’t have friendships or romantic relationships, or a good career etc.. The problem is when people condition their happiness too much on these things, and view them as some kind of ultimate source of happiness etc..
Let’s now shift to the main part of our discussion. It is often said that “the mental health system in America is broken”. What does that statement mean to you? From your perspective what is “broken” today?
To me, this statement means that the mental health system has some serious flaws and is not working nearly as well as it could be. It is important to preface the following by saying that while this section may contain a large amount of criticism of the overall mental health field/system etc., it is not for the sake of demeaning and only criticizing this field/system. It is for people to step back, reflect, reevaluate etc. and hopefully to work towards moving in a new and improved direction. The more we can improve the overall mental health field, the better off clients and mental health professionals will be, and the better the reputation the mental health field will have in society in the United States and around the world. Even though there has been a large amount of abuse in the overall mental health field/system throughout history, and there are problems still to this day, it is not the only field that has experienced this, and it can serve as a learning tool for people involved in the overall mental health field and others to learn from the mistakes of the past and to do the most good that they can going forward.
Also, to start out, I believe that it’s not just in the US where the mental health system is “broken”, but for the purposes of this article, I will focus mainly on the US. While I feel that the overall mental health field in the US has had a positive influence upon people, there has also been a large variety of abuse and other problems with it, some of which continue to this day. I do believe that the system has become better, but that there is still a lot of room for improvement. It is important to remember that it was relatively not that long ago that homosexuality was still considered to be a “mental illness” by the American Psychiatric Association, and people were practicing lobotomies.
One thing I would like to note is that in terms of today’s world, I still see elements of what I would call societal/cultural bias and automatically seeking out pathology in the mental health field. What I mean by this is that when a client presents as “different”, such as LGBTQ, polyamorous, asexual etc.. or maybe somehow displays “undesirable” behaviors/beliefs by certain people’s moral standards, I believe that some clinicians still automatically pathologize them just for the mere fact that they are “different” etc. and/or maybe go against some conservative religious “moral norms”. I do think that this has changed to a fair degree in recent years, but I do still think this is an ongoing issue. And unfortunately, to my knowledge, conversion therapy is still practiced in the US.
In addition, to my knowledge, “The Troubled Teen industry” still continues to operate. This is appalling to me given the kinds of reports people have given regarding the things that go on at least some of these places. If readers would like to learn more about this, I would recommend checking out Breaking Code Silence at https://www.breakingcodesilence.org/
Another point I would like to make is regarding the whole system of licensure, hour accrual etc.. I am a licensed mental health counselor so I will speak more to that profession, although I think that a lot of these same problems are also present in the fields of Clinical Social Work, Psychology, and probably others. One broken area I see is that when people finish their degree program, in my experience, they often end up being taken advantage of by mental health practices or companies where they are overworked and underpaid. They need to accrue a certain number of hours for full licensure and I feel that some practices/companies just take advantage of and abuse that. What I believe this can often result in is someone who was passionate about wanting to help people when they got into the field, just ending up burnt out and maybe even lacking empathy towards clients. Besides something like this being just plain wrong, I don’t think that most clients would want to work with a burnt out, underpaid, and disgruntled therapist.
Furthermore, I find it ridiculous that in this day and age there is no national level licensure for mental health counselors, and as far as I know for other mental health professionals as well. With remote counseling being popularized during COVID and continuing on after that, I view it as a disservice to clients to limit someone from working with them remotely, just because they don’t happen to be in the same state etc.. If a person is properly trained and it’s a good fit, they should be able to work with anyone anywhere. To put it in more comical terms, does Pennsylvania OCD differ from New York OCD ? I realize that probably a fair number of people use legal workarounds or just ignore these state line restrictions, but why should they have to? This is wrong and needs to change. I would imagine that a large part of it probably has to do with financial greed and each state wanting to make money off of the person going through the whole licensing process etc..
In addition, another large problem area that I see is the insurance industry. I believe there is a reason that a lot of therapists don’t want to work with insurance. I feel that this also often ties back to the idea of financial greed, because in my understanding, a large part of the reason why many therapists don’t want to work with insurance companies is that they are often probably not compensated enough and have to go through many hoops just to get paid. In my experience, insurance companies often tend to try to latch on to the smallest reason in order to deny claims and then people have to spend time fighting with them to actually get paid.
Speaking of financial greed, I feel that this can also be tied back to the “Troubled Teen Industry” and to other aspects of the overall mental health field, as well as to other fields. I think that one of the biggest societal problems in the United States is financial greed and putting profits ahead of the best interests of workers, clients, patients, customers etc.. This is what I feel a lot of it boils down to in the United States, whether in the mental health field, or other fields.
Another important point I would like to make is that overall, I feel that psychologists, psychiatrists, mental health counselors, etc. still have a relatively poor understanding of the brain, mind, and consciousness, but some of them like to think that they fully understand everything. For example, to my knowledge, the phenomenon of psychosis is interpreted and approached in a very different way in some other cultures and with much better results. For readers who are interested, I would recommend checking out a video on Youtube called Psychosis or Spiritual Awakening: Phil Borges at TEDxUMKC at https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CFtsHf1lVI4&t=739s . I would venture to guess that in many ways, many eastern spiritual teachers probably have a much better understanding of the human mind, brain, and consciousness than psychologists, psychiatrists, mental health counselors etc.. I am not saying that counseling, psychology etc. is useless, but at the same time, it’s important for these professionals to be honest with themselves, cognizant of their limited knowledge, humble, and open to other ideas and new learnings.
In addition, the actual accuracy of diagnosis is also questionable. I don’t believe that all people fit neatly into DSM type boxes. Again, I don’t think that the DSM is useless, but I do think that it’s important to recognize its limitations and understand that maybe in 100 years, people may consider it to be extremely primitive and even laughable. In addition, when it comes to psychiatry, I would argue that a similar argument can be made in that I believe that the field of psychiatry does still not understand very well the intricacies of the human brain, mind etc., how exactly the various psychiatric substances interact with them, and how to know exactly how to match the right problem with the right medication. In addition, in regards to psychiatry, I would venture to guess that there is probably overprescribing of psychiatric medications. Here again, this is not to say that I believe psychiatry or psychiatric medication is useless, but I do feel there is much that the overall field of psychiatry does not know and understand, and I believe that it is important to acknowledge this, remain humble, open minded, and keep in mind the idea that there is much more room for improvement.
In addition, I won’t go into it here for the sake of length of the article but I also have criticisms of Alcoholics Anonymous (AA)/ 12 Step Programs (as well as positives). If readers are interested, they can go to https://progressivetherapist.com/some-criticisms-and-some-positives-of-aa-12-step-programs/ and read the article that I wrote.
What about any bright spots? Do you think there are any elements that we get right in today’s world that we wouldn’t want to reverse unintentionally?
In terms of bright spots, I do think that there has been some strong progress in the overall mental health field over the years and I feel like it has been going even faster in recent years. I feel like counselors/therapists and other people in general, have become more open minded and more accepting of diverse ways of living, overall, in the United States. This is not to say that there are not still problems, but I feel like there have been large strides in recent years. It’s also encouraging to see the “Troubled Teen Industry” becoming more exposed and coming more under fire through the work of Breaking Code Silence ( https://www.breakingcodesilence.org/ ) and others. In addition, I feel like seeking mental health care in the US has become much less stigmatized. I do feel like there are still remnants there, but overall I feel like it has improved significantly.